The wedding plans are usually left up to the bride. She might ask you a question, but the answers there already. You nod along and makes the right noises, knowing that you haven’t got much choice in the matter. People tend to think that this is what the groom wants, and a lot of the time they’re right. We haven’t got a clue about flower arrangements and table decorations. But it’s your day as well and you probably want a bit of a say in how things go. The key is to pick your battles. Realistically, you aren’t going to be much help with a lot of things, so just let the bride deal with those bits and then you can gain yourself a bit of bargaining power when it comes to the things that you might be good at. If you want to be more involved with your wedding plans, here are a few ways that you can do it.
This is the only part that you have complete control over. There’s no way that the bride can get involved, so this is your time to shine. The first step is finding the perfect diamond, take a look in her jewelry box to get some ideas. If most of her stuff has small, understated stones in, don’t buy her a huge rock. The next step is to choose the style of the band. Make sure that you match it well with the stone. If you’re going for something on the smaller side, don’t get a thick heavy band, it just won’t fit. It’s best to take the advice of the jeweler on this one.
If you’re picking your battles, you want them to be the ones that cost the most. It’s no use deciding what color the napkins are going to be, that’s not really a major part of the day and your skill set doesn’t really lend itself to color palettes anyway. The first thing you want to get in on is the guest list. The more people you invite, the more expensive it’s going to be. It might also mean having a load of people that you don’t want there. A good way of cutting down the list is to say no kids and no colleagues, unless the colleagues are good friends outside of work.
The venue is another major point that you should have input on. Bring your practical reasoning into play here. You’re going to want a lavish venue, but if they insist on supplying everything else, it’s going to cost you. Check whether you can supply your own food and drink, if you can it will make it much cheaper, and give you both more control over your big day. You also need to check if there’s going to be enough parking.
Lastly, the date. Make sure it doesn’t coincide with any big holidays because most of your guests are likely to have plans already. Pick a weekend that most people will probably have free. You won’t need to worry about trying to cut your guest list if nobody can come.
Leave Her To It
Now you’ve had your say over the main aspects of the wedding, let the bride deal with the smaller details. Let’s face it, you’ll be happy with your wedding as long as the venue and the guests are right, it’s the bride that’s going to worry about all of the smaller bits. That way, you both end up happy.